BRAND NEW

A BRAND NEW DAY is awaiting you everyday...
this NEW YEAR brings MORE hope, opportunity and adventure into our lives as we 

"find ourselves, heal from abuse and learn to dream again". 

We CAN do it...it is TIME!!!!

I forgot my opportunity to blog on this Singing a New Song blog during one of the LESS stressful years of my life. I had relocated and had just found part time employment at the end of 2014 and I was doing other writing and creative things for outlet and personal growth rather than attending to my blogging here...Currently, I am making lifestyle (home, relationship and family) changes and I have failed to attend to my love of teaching and writing...THANK YOU my dear Singing a New Song friend for continuing to read and share what I have had the opportunity to share with you about healing from abuse.

It is a BRAND NEW DAY...we must never forget that EVERY DAY is another opportunity to "find ourselves, heal from abuse and learn to dream again". We must look forward to this NEW YEAR with HOPE...the hope that we WILL be healed from abuse...

We must look forward to this NEW YEAR with OPPORTUNITY to learn and to DISCOVER the wonderful person we are; although we have been damaged by abuse...our lives are in front of us; not behind us.

We must look forward to this NEW YEAR with ADVENTURE and a sense of anticipation of BETTER THINGS TO COME. Time is fleeting and we must be AWARE of the twists and turns and how our life path can be changed and thrown off and led down rabbit trails when there are such more interesting and fulfilling adventures ahead.

Again, dear friend, I apologize for MY FAILURE to write and encourage you here on this blog; I hope that you are finding our relationship on SINGING A NEW SONG Facebook Fan page to be encouraging and filled with hope that you also, one day will be SINGING A NEW SONG.

Love and peace this year...and always,
D

We can "rise above" our circumstances.

Just as Rome was not built in one day; overcoming abuse, healing from its damage, rebuilding our self-esteem and self-concept and trusting our vision for our future is a process. 

Taking the next step on our healing journey is challenging enough. What happens when we find that we have gone from the "frying pan into the fire" and discover that abuse, as we have known it, no longer sufficiently explains what we are facing?

What can we do when the circumstances that we are facing is "fall out" and the beginning of the healing process???

 
PERSPECTIVE:
Do you realize that you ARE WORTH more than the way that you have been treated by others?

FOCUS: 
What are you focusing on in your life??? Are you facing toward the past and remembering the pain and abuse or are you facing toward the future and looking toward healing and wholeness?

 
LISTEN: 
Are you taking time to "listen to what your heart is saying?"...Take the time today to LISTEN to yourself...your heart and mind...





BELIEVE: 
We really are SO MUCH MORE than how we have been treated by others...it is time to learn to RESPECT ourselves and believe that we are WORTHY of a happy and healthy life.

EMPOWER YOURSELF:  
Find yourself, heal from abuse and learn to dream again. Go to counseling. Eat nutritious food and get plenty of rest and hydration. Become more active and TAKE CHARGE of your life!

HEAL and BECOME the person that YOU REALLY ARE!!!

It is time to RISE ABOVE the past and MOVE ON toward our future. You really are worth it!!!!

What's in your heart???

Why do we fear to look within? 
Don't we know that what is "within" is the true "us"? And why do we avoid the truth about who we are when that is what is needed to be healed and made whole???

LOOK into your heart today...don't be afraid. 



I suppose that we might think that it might be easier for an introspective, intuitive personality to be "inward looking" but what about the EXTRAVERTS...like myself? We have NO excuse...I know that we can "look within" as long as we are WILLING to accept and embrace what we see without judgement. 

The only justice is to follow the sincere intuition of the soul, angry or gentle.

Anger is just, and pity is just, but judgement is never just.

~ D. H. Lawrence ~

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I love when things are transparent, free and clear 

of all inhibition and judgement.

~ Pharrell Williams ~ (of "Happy" fame)

I have looked within my heart all my life. I have always known that the only way to live a life and "find myself, be healed from abuse and learn to dream again", starts with ME accepting myself without judgement. With gentle openness and acceptance. And as soon as we accept and love ourselves, the sooner we allow ourselves to accept and love others.

I have often said that I am am writer but I admit, that I am much more a thinker and philosopher, counselor and friend and helper to many, including myself than the writer that I have hoped to become. I accept this in myself. If I want to become more of a writer; I must WILL myself to BE more of a writer. Happiness, peace and wholesome living is just like that...we create it. And we must start with ourselves...

START WITHIN  TODAY...visit us at Singing a New Song  on Facebook...a place where you can begin to "find yourself, heal from abuse and learn to dream again".

YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!

Our changing times

Autumn is really beginning here 

in the Northeast USA 

where the tree tops dance 

with glimmering slight yellow, 

red or orange flames along the 

Blue Ridge Parkway.  

As much as we would like to believe that all change will this pleasing to look at; we have known from experience that change is often HARD and sometimes, absurdly purposeless or at least it appears to be on the surface. 

I love the mountains. Though they seem to be constantly visible, they are constantly in flux or periods of change that is too subtle for the human vision until Autumn arrives. 

I can say that I have healed from years of verbal, emotional, spiritual and sexual abuse. I see relationships and people more clearly, truly and accept the truth of what they are and who they are like I have never been able to discern before. I feel very much at peace with who I am and find that EVERYONE who has been where I have been can BE where I am now...happy and healed.

We have a closed group for women only (sorry guys) called Healing and Hopeful (women preparing for healthy relationship after abuse). Please look for us on Facebook at: 

 https://www.facebook.com/groups/healingandhopeful/

We are changing and growing everyday. We are no longer accused by an abuser to "have changed on them" when we would no longer allow their abuse in our lives. We have always been growing, maturing, "finding ourselves, healing from abuse and learning to dream again".

Will you challenge your perspective on change today? 
Are you seeing your life from the mountaintop 
or are you stuck in the valley?

Isn't it time to take good care of yourself 
and look forward to "singing a new song" in your life? 
I think so.

I have done it and so can you...

Wishing you love and peace today my friend,
D 
Singing a New Song: 
https://www.facebook.com/Newsong4him

and 
Healing and Hopeful (closed group for women) 

Our pain isn't about someone else

The pain of our past LOSS,  BETRAYAL and ABUSE has had too much space in our lives...

It is time for it to MOVE OUT
 and stop being a barrier to LOVE 

I have emotionally moved on and MOVED OUT the emotions of pain, abuse and betrayal...I realize that how I feel is about ME, no one else. It is about how I have expected others to treat me; based upon their behavior and promises before they lost the ability to grow and continue to love me as I had loved them...

If we are not careful and diligent, life's joys and pleasures can be taken from us, overpowered by loss, grief and emotional and physical pain. One day we look back and wonder "what happened"...and that is when we need to start on our healing journey of "finding ourselves, healing from abuse and learning to dream again"...it is never ending. Hopefully.

I hope that you have found that YOU LOVE...and that the only barrier that you have to loving others is yourself...it is not about them...it is about YOU. Others cannot make you love them any more than you can make others love you...and the same for "unloving" them...we make the CHOICE to love or not to love. It is an healthy perspective on life to make healthy boundaries and realize that we deserve to BE loved as WE love others. In my experience, very few persons grow out of their pain of loss, abuse and betrayal to see that they have been damaged and unable to love others because they have failed to love themselves.

Don't give such negative, life-sucking emotions place in your life. MOVE THEM OUT and move on with "Singing a new song".
YOU are worth it!!!