My education and work background is in healthcare. I have earned a B.S. in Dietetics which I used to attain my first job from where I recently resigned in my 23rd year of employment to relocate and free myself from many abusive relationships. I am a mom of a wonderful autism spectrum son. I am very much a "people person" but very introspective as well. I was a singer/soloist/worship leader/songwriter and had been intensively involved with worship music in the church up to for the past 25 years up to and including having had a wonderful opportunity of writing, arranging, recording and performing my original songs.
I have performed with many choirs and had the joy and privilege to sing with Master Singers Chorale Inc, of Northeast Ohio; 2005-2010 under the fine direction of J. D. Goddard (who passed Feb. 14, 2020, my heart broke, may he rest in peace). I have created/coordinated/produced/directed dramas, musicals, original songs and performed them in church and other venues. I am very musical and very much a thinking and loving person who truly cares and has compassion for others who are just trying to live their lives honestly and fully.
My first husband, Bob, was also a Christian, a short-lived "Gospel Radio DJ" in the 90's at the height of the "Southern Gospel music" craze which I ministered in many churches for close to ten years. We were married nearly 8 years resulting with no children from that union. My second (Ex, as of 8/31/11) husband, Robert and I "met in the church" and after a few months of a "whirlwind romance", we married in Jan. 1999. He also claimed to be a Christian, an abusive Christian husband that is, a true paradox. I helped raise his daughter from age 7 and have been betrayed and abused by both of them to the point that this became the end of my second marriage and my second divorce. We have one son, Robert, age 10 and we share a loss of a son to stillbirth in April 2007.
My first husband, Bob, was also a Christian, a short-lived "Gospel Radio DJ" in the 90's at the height of the "Southern Gospel music" craze which I ministered in many churches for close to ten years. We were married nearly 8 years resulting with no children from that union. My second (Ex, as of 8/31/11) husband, Robert and I "met in the church" and after a few months of a "whirlwind romance", we married in Jan. 1999. He also claimed to be a Christian, an abusive Christian husband that is, a true paradox. I helped raise his daughter from age 7 and have been betrayed and abused by both of them to the point that this became the end of my second marriage and my second divorce. We have one son, Robert, age 10 and we share a loss of a son to stillbirth in April 2007.
I began to understand verbal abuse while pregnant with our son in Feb. 2001 and began understanding emotional abuse in 2002. Several online forums such as Verbalabuse.com and Patricia Evans's books were instrumental in my healing. I didn't know that I was possibly trying to have a relationship with mentally ill and personality disordered persons until I ran across the study of personality disorders in 2009 and then all the pieces of how the abuse had penetrated and overtaken my life started coming together. I was realizing that I had been a victim of "other's" mental illness but I was "finding me" after all these years.
The purpose of this blog has become TWO fold. I hope that this blog will show my path in my healing journey from various abuses and "how I survived" and arrived in the "place" that I am today. And secondly, I am excited to share how my "new song" has "changed its tune" and it is a good thing. My life has not only "become MY life" again but it has become more real than ever. PLEASE share them with me via comment or email...
WHY I write.... (updated June 23, 2013)
