Are we there yet???

I love road trips. I enjoy the company of loved ones, watching for new and interesting places and even stopping at the rest areas and chatting with a person I have never met and will probably never meet again in my life. I love to travel. 

Our healing journey is not unlike traveling. We choose where we start (where we are right now), our path (our healing journey) and our destination (Singing a New Song!) Thank you for traveling along with me. Our journey is bound to be a wonderful time together. 


Emotionally, mentally and even spiritually, we can, together examine our personal life situations and our experiences to get to the realness of it all. We travel the same road; an healing path where we are learning to "find ourselves, heal from abuse and learn to dream again"...It is a wonderful journey and I am so glad that you have joined me. Traveling is always better with a friend. 

Along our journey we can discuss many areas of our lives. We can learn all about how one can have the deep, inner journey of "FINDING ME" where we can look deeply into issues of self-esteem, self-image, personal goals, etc. We can spend weeks following "rabbit trails" leading to wonderful knowledge of who we are and who we are becoming. It is a wonderful journey on discovering that we are free to "be ME". 

We can spend time together on the somewhat painful but profitable road of "HEALING FROM ABUSE" and face our fears, train our triggers, finish flashbacks, develop detachment, and consult about counseling. This seemed to be the longest part of my healing journey, taking years. There are some part that must be taken alone but having someone with you who understands how you feel and what you are going through is a blessing! 

The last but not least step in our "Singing a New Song" healing journey is "LEARNING TO DREAM AGAIN" where we can discuss HOW to "get past our past" and start living IN THE PRESENT...putting our dreams into plans and so we can "SING A NEW SONG"... 



Our healing (real living) is broken down into these three parts to help us "see where we are"...and like children traveling on road trips, we may often ask "Are we there yet???". We would like to feel and be whole, be healed and be happy but it is a process that we must choose to experience and live out in our lives. We cannot expect anyone to do it for us. It is our life. It is our healing. It is our happiness.

So, WHERE are YOU in the process??? 

I know that I am "learning to dream again" and it feels great. I want YOU to be there with me. I spent many years, uncovering and discovering my true self. I had to push past all the opinions of others, for "good" or "bad" as they saw me. I had to discover who I was alone.

After I started "finding me", I realized that I had been abused as child and young adult in many ways. The scars of my emotional and mental trauma had stunted my inner journey and it was then that I began to be "brutally honest" with myself about what I felt about what I had been through at the hands (and mouths) of others. It was then that I realized that I had been physically, emotionally and mentally abused by my father and how it had affected my choice in spouses.

I sought counseling for many other small crises in my life but each time, I realized that I had to come back to the source of my trauma, my abusive past and that until I was fully on my healing journey to heal from the abuse, I could not fully live my life.

After several years of leaving an abusive marriage, I had allowed myself to dream a dream that I had dreamt for many years. After going through the healing journey of "finding me and healing from abuse", I was then ready to "learn to dream again"...and that is exactly what I did...but that is another story for another blog.

Please join us at Singing a New Song on Facebook. It is YOUR community where you can feel free to share a comment on ways that you are finding more for yourself, learning to "speak out" against abuse and set healthy relationship boundaries and affirm yourself and  share the precious dream that you have not shared with others. It is a place of healing and hope for the hurting...that includes you and me. 

Think about this...the more we talk about these things, the more REAL they become. They can turn from dreams into plans and plans into reality.

YOU are worth it!!!