Taking charge

How many times, have we heard it said to us or have we heard or said it to someone else "Take some responsibility". Doesn't it sound like someone is going to be blamed for something? In that case, who would really want to "take responsibility? Let's reframe the concept and talk about TAKING CHARGE OF OUR LIVES.

Most people do not really want freedom, 
because freedom involves responsibility, 
and most people are frightened of responsibility. 

~ Sigmund Freud ~

One definition of "charge" is: to instruct or urge authoritatively; command. It is a positive, empowering and direct way to define our own role in our own lives. To me, it doesn't imply blame or guilt of wrongdoing but deposits power and authority. I can "take charge" of myself, my behavior and my life, of course, I am responsible for my actions, words and deeds but I am also THE authority in my life and when it comes to accepting responsibility in order to gain freedom, this is a good thing to know. 

The struggle with power seems to the crux of abuse. Abusers want control over others but seem to have little control over themselves. There can be a constant "power struggle" that simply means that one or both are trying to control the other. When you say "NO" to abuse, you let go of trying to control the person who is abusing you and you TAKE CHARGE of your life and "take your power back". This is healthy. This is the result of setting healthy boundaries and this promotes "finding ourselves, healing from abuse and learning to dream again". 

We always have control over our own actions, even in the moments when there seems to be "no out", there is a way of escaping being trapped and controlled. The best and quickest way to take charge of yourself is to detach emotionally and physically from an abusive person or situation. Let go. Back off. Leave. You cannot be controlled and abused if you are not with the abuser. It may feel like they are mentally controlling you but this is where we have the right to set our boundaries, take our power back and say "NO" to abuse. They cannot control us if we do not see or respond to them in any way. 

We take charge of our lives by realizing that we deserve to be happy. We deserve to find ourselves. We deserve to discover the wonderful person who has been oppressed, abused and denied personal growth. Abuse makes me angry. Let your anger be your ally and permit your anger to set boundaries that heal you heal and begin your healing journey.

You really are worth it!!! ( I repeat this TRUTH so that we will begin to believe and act upon it...
soon we will be "Singing a New Song".