How many times have we stood pulling at a closed door, trying to pry it open with all our might only to become angry that it will not reopen and do NOT see that an opened door to a new life is waiting for us? I have found all too often that abuse has attempted to destroy many lives. We look back to see what "we have left" we can feel frustrated, obligated or guilty (FOG; see Out of the FOG.net ).
Sometimes it is not until we can SEE that another door is opening before us are we assured that WE HAVE THE RIGHT to turn our backs on the past abuse and neglect and destruction that has plagued our lives. It is only THEN can we GO THROUGH the open door instead of wasting our energy wrestling with the closed door; as if we can "go back and live the past over" and make it better this time, it just doesn't work that way.
I think it is a good thing to be introspective, to delve into our hearts and help clean out the muck and mire of damage that has been allowed to dwell there and fill it up with good things but there is a time and place for everything.
