Living the life we really want to live

Here at Singing a New Song, I focus on truly LIVING a life  that's "wild, full and free and over the top" and that means to "find yourself, heal from abuse and learn to dream again". 

I know that sounds like a BIG mountain to climb, but we don't grow from a child to an adult in one day...we grow every day. We didn't lose ourselves, get damaged from life and its abuses or forget our dreams in one day either. We GREW into it.  

Instead of growing into loss, pain and lack of vision, we focus on HEALING and repairing the areas of our lives; our self-esteem, our thought life, our ability to dream and to make our dreams come true. This doesn't happen in one day. It may not happen in a year...but HOPEFULLY by "Singing a New Song", it WILL happen in our lifetime to make our lives the best that they can be...for us and our loved ones and the world.

It all begins with accepting our lives as they are; seeing them without blame or excuse. Laying out the truth, looking at it and saying "Yep, that's about it, that's my life right now"...and from there deciding how we want to CHANGE it. We cannot change something that we have not accepted to be the truth of how things actually are.

Secondly, we decided upon HOW and WHEN and WHERE and WHY we want change in our lives. WE decide, not others. Those who have abused and damaged us emotionally are NOT in control of our lives, we are! We may need to make "baby steps" to accomplish "the decision to change", and that is ok. For some, we may find that professional counseling will help us work through the memories of abuse and how it affected our lives. We deserve to "find ourselves, heal from abuse and learn to dream again"...this is a GOAL that we can work toward.

Thirdly, when we make changes, we need to be patient with ourselves and others. We as well as they, may not be accustomed to our NEW boundaries. Our new way of speaking "curtly" if needed. Our new way of "taking good care of ourselves".

All of this empowers us to take control of our lives so that we CAN live them "wildly, fully and freely and over the top". No pone else can do it for us. We deserve to make our lives what we want them to be...and for me that is "Singing a NEW Song".